The letter is not the friendship; the unfolding is not the childhood. Sentimental sorting is hard because the brain treats the object and the memory as one item. Separating them — consciously, kindly — is the entire method: the memory stays with you regardless of what happens to the object.
For any large category — a childhood, a relative's belongings, a stack of greeting cards — choose the few items that best represent the whole: the best letter, not all forty. One well-chosen object per chapter honours the memory; forty boxes honour only the difficulty of deciding.
One box per person or per life-chapter, sized to a shelf, with the contents photographed and a brief inventory inside the lid. The photograph is the genius layer: the whole box can be revisited in an album without opening it, and items can later leave the box without leaving the record.
For inherited or shared items, decide process before objects: who chooses first, how many each, what happens to the rest, and how the record is kept. Written kindly and agreed early, this turns a potential family dispute into a shared project.
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